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The next time a fellow competitor yells a scathing insult at you, be sure to thank them.

They are actually doing you a favour – in fact, their insult is beneficial to you in THREE ways!!


BENEFIT #1:   People have all sorts of reasons to be angry, frustrated, emotional, or irrational.  It is never appropriate to behave unpleasantly towards others, but it happens.  Benefit #1 is a REMINDER to you that not everyone out there competing is ‘sportsmanlike’ or ‘sportswomanlike’, and not everyone behaves appropriately, or pleasantly.  In life, in our own little bubble, the perfect world we try to make for ourselves, we tend to forget that there are nasty, rude, angry, and ill-behaved people out there.  A good reminder is always helpful…!!


Because it keeps us from living too much in our bubble and becoming ‘soft’.  It keeps us on our toes, reminding us that there are always tough challenges out there.  Nothing like a little boost of mental toughness in the form of an attack from an outsider!



BENEFIT #2:   That insult got under your skin.  Made the veins in your neck pop out, made your face turn red.  But rather than muster up the perfect response to the person who yelled stupid things at you, and rather than focus on how to respond or react – you should take this externally created energy and apply it to your riding, swimming, running, or whatever you are doing at the time.

Look at this as a gift!  You now have a huge burst of strong energy in you- and it can be channelled wherever you’d like it to go.  Might as well speed up your stride, or pack on more power…

Yes, the best benefit is that you can now use that energy that is welling up in you, not to REACT to the attacker, but to ENHANCE your performance at the moment.  This is energy that you didn’t have to dig up, you didn’t have to eat an extra power bar to obtain, you didn’t have to take a rest to get.  This is bonus energy.  Use it wisely!  Run/swim/bike faster and pass the insulting offender EVEN FASTER!!  Heheheheheh!



BENEFIT #3:  It never hurts to work on your own behaviour, comportment, finesse.  Work on your patience at every chance you get.  Work on your drive, focus, concentration, and distraction-control every moment that presents itself.  If you are yelled at by an insulting competitor, here is an OPPORTUNITY to PRACTISE that strong, resistant dignity and focus.  It helps you to perfect your own qualities.  Use that insult to your advantage.

For example, when I play golf, I welcome every opportunity to play a sand shot.  It’s a difficult shot to play, and generally, we never get quite enough time to practise it well.  So when my ball rolls into a bunker during a game, I don’t get upset and anxious.  I am grateful and welcome this chance to practise my sand-shots.  I look forward to it.   I am happy when it happens.

So the next time someone yells at you during a race, remember to thank them!  Narrow into yourself and transfer your anger and shock into new energy to fuel your race…be grateful that you are one of the ones who behaves well and that there are tons of people out there who don’t (for whatever reason – and the amount of compassion you feel is up to you), and remember that you are only able to perfect your toughness and other qualities when you have a challenge and an opportunity to do so.

Looking forward to more challenges and opportunities!


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Imagine, car free, safe, enjoyable and scenic riding…in San Diego!! WHERE WHERE? you ask!!

Soon, we will have it here!!

Some friends have put a lot of work into creating this petition to make a bike path from Lakeside to the Ocean, which they will forward to city hall, etc…as appropriate. Please have a look and pass this around as much as possible if you are interested in helping it move forward.



“Tell them what they need to know” (nothing more, nothing less.)

One day I was getting into my car at the Lumberyard Encinitas. My car was parked on the road, next to the curb, adjacent to the outdoor patio seating area near the Starbucks. By the way, there is no bike lane indicated near that curb.

But I know, despite the lack of indication (bike lane) that there are cyclists…because I am one. So when I went to get into my car, I looked south, then opened the door to the car and proceeded to get in. Suddenly, a bike lurched by me and the rider yelled out: “Asshole!!” and rode by.

Oh my god, I felt bad. What happened?!!?? Maybe I didn’t glance far enough down the road to see if cyclists were coming from a few blocks down. Maybe he just pulled onto the road from some parking lot and flew by me. Maybe I just didn’t see him. Maybe anything…and I, of all people, should be aware of bikes, right??!!

But, whatever the case, and whom ever fault lies with, I started to think about what had just happened. And then it hit me: Really – instead of calling me names and making me remember only how much of a prick he was, that rider should have yelled out some useful instruction instead. Something I could think about – and maybe learn from.

His message was intended to let me know that I should watch out (or watch more carefully) for cyclists, right? But he didn’t really communicate that message very well, did he?

He could have yelled (and without the ‘asshole’ tone of voice): “Watch out for cyclists!!” or “This is a bike lane – keep your eyes open for bikes!” – something that actually had meaning. It could have been loud, it could have been as he whizzed by, but if he wanted to teach me to look out for bikes, calling me an asshole was not exactly the most effective way to do it.

So for the next 10 minutes of my car ride, I heard and thought about the words “Asshole, asshole, asshole” in my head.

Imagine if the rider had told me something useful and I spent the next ten minutes thinking of THAT instead…I would definitely be watching out next time I open my car door on the side of the road! Instead, I drove off feeling angry at cyclists.

I guess that rider is not going to be enlightened by this email, but those of you who DO read it: please do think about it. If our ride is ‘interrupted’ by someone who was maybe not looking, or not thinking, or not paying attention, or just made a mistake, and especially if there is nothing to remind people of bikes in the area, such as the painted bike lane, don’t bitch or curse at them.

Just tell them what it is that they ought to know. They might actually learn something. Tell them something useful so that more and more people will actually become aware of cyclists and remember to share the road with us.

Oh yes, and LESS and LESS people will perceive cyclists as screaming and swearing idiots!!